When my oldest son was 4 1/2, I came to the realization that my parenting techniques were not working. My son was physically aggressive and had hour-long raging meltdowns daily, leaving me feeling overwhelmed, confused, sad and scared. Everything I tried seemed only to make things worse, in both my son's behavior and my relationship with him. It became clear to me that my son needed something other than time-outs & counting to 3 to teach him social skills. My son needed emotional support AND a way to learn life's lessons. But how does a parent teach both? I found the answer to that question hard to find.
This is why Darlynn created "Parenting the Whole Child".
Over the next several years, I honed my parenting craft through reading books, attending conferences and receiving extensive trainings, and I became an expert in several parenting theories. Building on my background in education, my work with parents and my dedication to practical, applicable resources, I combined my expertise into one complete parenting program I now teach throughout the world. I have watched this program bring peace to families where stress and chaos once ruled.
I am devoted to equipping parents with skills that build emotional connection in families and promote critical thinking in children.
PARENTING IS HARD
PARENTING THE WHOLE CHILD IS NOT
I take parents through The Behavior Spiral - an amazing 4-step tool that prevents conflicts from spiraling out of control. It begins with YOU, the parent. I teach you about the brain and what happens to your body when you get angry. You will learn how to STOP GETTING FRUSTRATED and START CONNECTING with your child. Empathy calms the mind and opens your child up to learning. When both you and your child are calm, teaching and learning are possible.
Parents learn how to set limits that work. When your child makes a mistake, you will create meaningful ways for her or him to make restitution. When your child makes things right after doing something wrong, your child will feel capable & confident instead of shameful.
It's a different approach to parenting. A parenting program that teaches parents the tools they need to emotionally connect with their child, communicate unconditional acceptance and create safety and trust. Emotional connection alone is not enough. Parenting the Whole Child also teaches parents how to set limits that move a child towards critical thinking and responsible behavior. This program nurtures the "whole" child--emotionally, socially and cognitively.
Most parents practice what I call the tool box method of parenting. -- taking a parenting skill from this program and a parenting tool from that program and adding them to your parenting tool box, then taking out what you need when the time is right. But often times parents can’t remember the tools they've learned or find those tools ineffective and give up. They resort to yelling and taking away possessions or privileges. Sound familiar?